Ugandan socialite Zari Hassan has wondered if it’s fair to tolerate a cheating husband because she is a woman.
Zari whose relationship with Tanzanian music star Diamond Platinumz has been surrounded by controversy lately, penned a missive explaining the emotional suffering of woman worldover.
Read on;
So what?
I get into an argument with a man. He slaps me. I feel the pain. Yet they tell me I provoked him.
I get into an argument with a man. I slap him. They tell me I have no respect.
Like I don’t have a right to be angry.
So, my level of respect for people is judged by my degree of silence in the face of brutality.
Because I am a woman.
So what?
I am not allowed to show anger. I must sit with my legs stretched out even if it hurts. I must not talk ‘anyhow’.
Because I am a woman.
My husband or “boyfriend” cheats on me, I am told to tolerate it……to save my marriage or relationship as the case maybe. Society making the barbaric and stupid excuse that ”it is in their nature to cheat.”
I cheat….and I am called a whore, if we are married I am sent packing with my obese tinker box on my head and my little one still suckling my left nipple.
Three years later……little one is tagged a bastard.
Fellow women will now tell my mother to take me for cleansing. Then, I will be flogged with a sorry excuse for a broom to get rid of the demon.
Because I am a woman.
I am judged as a good girl if I know to cook, clean and do laundry for my man. And when I don’t know how to, I am useless.
My character does not count.
Because I am a woman.
He is 28 and runs a company…..”ahhh wonderful! Successful at a very young age”.
I am not allowed to have wits or be a prodigy.
Because when I am financially buoyant….without a rich dude beside me…then I am a generous leg opener, “a runs girl”. They never see the possibility that I actually had to ups and downs to get to where I am.
Chai!!!!!!!!!!!
Because I am a woman
I am raped. Then, it is my fault because the strap of my bra is pink and my idea of fashion is provocative. And if I am way younger, I will be flogged because I ‘allowed’ the 25year old broda next door to touch me.
I am bleeding and sore….yet, they force me to admit I enjoyed it.
Because I am a woman.
My post will be considered controversial.
And everyone will try to correct me.
Because I am a woman.
I am a woman.
It does not make me less human.